The Daily OM
June 14, 2007
Demolishing Anger’s Walls
Resentment
Anger, when channeled into the pursuit of change, can be a useful
tool in our emotional palette. Anger is experienced by most people,
some more than others. It is when anger has no outlet and morphs into
resentment that it carries with it the potential to cause great
turmoil. Allowing us to assign blame for the pain we are feeling,
thereby easing it, resentment tends to smolder relentlessly just
below the surface of our awareness, eroding our peace of mind. The
target of our resentment grows ever more wicked in our minds and we
rue the day we first encountered them. But resentment is merely
another hue on the emotional palette and therefore within the realm
of our conscious control. We can choose to let go of our resentment
and to move on with our lives, no matter how painful the event that
incited it.
Hanging onto resentment in our hearts does not serve us in any way.
Successfully divesting ourselves of resentful feelings can be
difficult, however, because doing so forces us to mentally and
emotionally confront the original source of anger. When we cease
assigning blame, we realize that our need to hold someone or
something responsible for our feelings has harmed us. We thought we
were coping with our hurt when in fact we were holding onto that hurt
with a vice grip. To release resentment, we must shift our attention
from those we resent back toward ourselves by thinking of our own
needs. Performing a short ceremony can help you quell resentful
feelings by giving tangible form to your emotions. You may want to
write down your feelings and then burn the paper and close your
ceremony by wishing them well. When you can find compassion in your
heart, you know you are on your way to healing.
Free of resentment, we have much more energy and attention to devote
to our personal development. We can fill the spaces it left behind
with unconditional acceptance and joy. And, as a result of our
subsequent freedom from resentment, blessings can once again enter
our lives as the walls we built to contain our anger have been
demolished.
June 14, 2007
Demolishing Anger’s Walls
Resentment
Anger, when channeled into the pursuit of change, can be a useful
tool in our emotional palette. Anger is experienced by most people,
some more than others. It is when anger has no outlet and morphs into
resentment that it carries with it the potential to cause great
turmoil. Allowing us to assign blame for the pain we are feeling,
thereby easing it, resentment tends to smolder relentlessly just
below the surface of our awareness, eroding our peace of mind. The
target of our resentment grows ever more wicked in our minds and we
rue the day we first encountered them. But resentment is merely
another hue on the emotional palette and therefore within the realm
of our conscious control. We can choose to let go of our resentment
and to move on with our lives, no matter how painful the event that
incited it.
Hanging onto resentment in our hearts does not serve us in any way.
Successfully divesting ourselves of resentful feelings can be
difficult, however, because doing so forces us to mentally and
emotionally confront the original source of anger. When we cease
assigning blame, we realize that our need to hold someone or
something responsible for our feelings has harmed us. We thought we
were coping with our hurt when in fact we were holding onto that hurt
with a vice grip. To release resentment, we must shift our attention
from those we resent back toward ourselves by thinking of our own
needs. Performing a short ceremony can help you quell resentful
feelings by giving tangible form to your emotions. You may want to
write down your feelings and then burn the paper and close your
ceremony by wishing them well. When you can find compassion in your
heart, you know you are on your way to healing.
Free of resentment, we have much more energy and attention to devote
to our personal development. We can fill the spaces it left behind
with unconditional acceptance and joy. And, as a result of our
subsequent freedom from resentment, blessings can once again enter
our lives as the walls we built to contain our anger have been
demolished.
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